My Boyfriend Smokes Marijuana Almost Everyday. Am I Wrong For Wanting To Give Him An Ultimatum?
We’re both 16 years old. Smoking weed is understandable while growing up, especially where i live. But I feel like he’s pushing it…a lot. We’ve been together about a year, and he started smoking last summer, because of his older brother’s influence. At first, it was just every now and then. But it’s getting way out of hand. He tells me there’s no problem with it and gives me all these facts about how it doesn’t affect your health. I don’t know how to argue with him, and I feel that i’m becoming a ***** and a nag about it. I smoke too, maybe once a month. I don’t know if i should wait for him to grow out of it, or just leave him. I really really like him a lot. Any ideas?
well u guys r dum because it DOES affect ur health ALOT!!!!!!1
ur not old enough to smoke and marijuanna is illigal!
by Wordpress Autoblogging Software
on 08. Dec, 2009
Sweetie, your love can change him for the better. Look how Rhianna’s love changed Chris Brown.
by Rock
on 09. Dec, 2009
unless hes a hard case,then he’l grow outta it.
try to get him a different hobbie.
by Khewi
on 09. Dec, 2009
Tell him to sober up or you’re gone forever
by Joe M
on 09. Dec, 2009
just tell him to do it less often =]
by Mrs. Shelby Cullen =]
on 09. Dec, 2009
First off, marijuana isnt bad for you, so why should you want him to quit? If the weed is starting to effect his life in a bad way than just talk to him and tell him the examples of why weed is starting to effect his life in a bad way. I have been smoking marijuana awhile and at first when I first started smoking I was obsessed with it and all that mattered was weed. After awhile with age, you will understand that weed isnt everything, responsibility goes first. Your boyfriend will be obsessed with weed and drugs im sure for a little bit but after awhile he will grow out of it and prbly will still smoke but wont let it get in the way of anything and he wont smoke as much. Weed is like smoking cigs, it makes you feel good, and what makes you feel good is all that matters, just let him have his fun and he will love you even more for letting him do what he likes to do, trust me
by g4l2m0
on 09. Dec, 2009
Of course it can affect a user’s health, but that’s up to the ADULT user to decide to risk or not. It’s not a decision for kids to make.
Also, you have every right to make ANY issue you choose a deal breaker. If his excessive usage is a problem, then make that clear. If he keeps it up, he’ll be going backward in life instead of forward…not a good long term partner prospect, huh?
by BabeHart
on 09. Dec, 2009
He wont grow out of it. You shouldnt smoke mull either, especially if you want to have kids later. I mull up heaps, the ultimatum worked for me but when I wasnt stoned I was a different person. My ex didnt like that person either and broke up with me anyway. Its not nagging if thats what you believe in. Hes gonna tell you he stopped smokin and will just mull up behind ur back. If its not ur thing, get out of it.. he will be too stoned to realise anyway. By the time he does sort his crap out you will have met someone with more sober habits like yourself.
by Anferny
on 09. Dec, 2009
Don’t give him an ultimatum, because it sounds like he has a real problem and he would choose the weed over you. You can only tell him so many times how it affects his health, and more importantly, is illegal.
Also keep in mind that they don’t refer to marijuana as the gateway drug for no reason. If he keeps up getting high everyday, it may lead to him wanting something stronger. You sound like a smart girl, get out of the situation. He may come around, or he may not. Either way you are only 16, there are plenty of other guys out there and you will meet many in your life. Good luck hun!
by Girl Ginger
on 09. Dec, 2009
This kinda of sounds like me and my bf… I’m gonna just come on out and say that your’e wasting your time…talking to him about it isn’t gonna help, arguing with him isn’t gonna help, threating to end the relationship…isn’t gonna help. If he wants to quit, then you gotta let him make that his choice… just like cigarettes… Once you get addicted to it…it’s very hard to go cold turkey. You might as well, save your breath and energy because like I said, That’s his decision, and he has to have that will-power to reject from it. You just need to be patient and support him… hopefully the day will come, when he realizes it’s not what he wants anymore.
by ***CHERR
on 09. Dec, 2009