What If Your Boyfriend Is A Druggie And So Am I?
What if your boyfriend who you love with all of your heart decided to start selling small amounts of marijuana and he tells you that he’s going to do it but whatever i have to say won’t make a difference in his decisions. Personally I don’t want to have a boyfriend who’s goal is to go thru short cuts in life and is a druggie.
We’ve been together for 2 yrs and he’s the perfect guy in my life. We’re planning on spending the rest of our lives together. Good to me and my family. But i really want him to stop having ideas to growing **** and selling it.
What would you do in my shoes??
First, don’t make threats to him. That won’t be productive, and it will be harmful.
Second, have you spoken to him frankly about how you feel? Honestly, that’s all you can do–the rest is in his hands. Again, do not make threats. If he stops because he fears losing you rather than because he wants to, his end to these activities will not be genuine. Also, it’s downright mean and unhealthy for a relationship if one partner threatens to end the relationship in order lever the other partner into doing something.
As a final note to those comparing marijuana dealing to dealing of heroin or cocaine: marijuana should not even be illegal in this country. It is indeed far less harmful than is alcohol. Heroin and cocaine are life-threatening and life-consuming drugs; marijuana is smoked by an enormous segment of the population, to little harm. I know many extremely successful smokers, just as I know many very successful people who drink from time to time. Smoking weed and drinking alcohol are acts of virtually equal magnitude; weed only gets a bad rap because it is illegal, while in fact it is probably preferable to alcohol. After all, have you ever heard of somebody going on an angry rampage when stoned? I doubt it. They lie down on the couch and watch TV. Can you say the same about the effects of alcohol? I think not.
by Mike
on 06. Dec, 2009
Speaking from experience, If he loves you he’ll stop. If he doesn’t no matter how much it hurts get the hell out. He will eventually end up in jail, then where will you be. And don’t let him tell you he won’t get caught, that’s what mine told me. And he was wrong. He is serving time as we speak. Good luck girl.
by WP Autoblog Software
on 06. Dec, 2009
How can he be the perfect guy for you if the one thing you hate is he is a drug pusher?
Once you can be honest with yourself and answer that question, then you will know what to do.
by Seperated Man
on 06. Dec, 2009
get rid of him
by william c
on 06. Dec, 2009
Be Careful I had a guy that was like that to and then his selling was more important than me. He would be with me and when the person he sold for called he would leave me right their and go with him and not even bother to drop me off home….I was their for awhile but that life was more to him than me….Then he had lots of fights with peopel and could not hold my hand in the streets beacause if someone saw me with him they might try to do something to me…Just be carefull. I lived that life with 2 different guys one for 4 months and the other 4 two and a half years….be careful..If he loves you and respects your decision he will stop and get a legite job..
by puertoli
on 06. Dec, 2009
you need to get out NOW, and find a MAN, instead of a little boy….
What will you do if AFTER the 2 of you have a child, he starts selling “small amounts” of cocaine or heroin?
And make sure when the 2 of you buy a house, you get one with a basement for his meth lab.
by Richard
on 07. Dec, 2009
tell him to stop because if he doesnt and gets caught you could get into trouble along with him since you knew he was doing it. just let him know what the consequences can be and if he still does it then leave him since it’s not worth having to look over your shoulder the rest of your life trying to stay out of trouble.
by dietzc20
on 07. Dec, 2009